Here, Wiest points out common hypocrisies, arguing that we expect things from other people without first giving them ourselves.

Wiest dispels the misconception that a person must love themselves, or be the best version of themselves, to receive love. In fact, she argues that allowing others to love is a part of loving oneself. Denying themselves or blaming themselves for not yet having love is the opposite.

The questions of this essay prompt the reader to consider what they are looking for, why they are looking for it, how they are looking for it, and whether they are truly ready to have it.