A recurring crossroads for several characters is the choice between freedom and belonging. Their internal struggles, while all different, at their core are the same decision. They must decide which is more important to them: agency over their own life or acceptance from their peers.

When Nahri decides for herself to go with Dara to Daevabad, she considers her options. She was born with total freedom and no belonging. While on their trip she wanted to return to Cairo to regain her freedom, when offered the family, belonging, and understanding that she has always wanted, she ultimately chooses the latter, viewing it as an opportunity to study medicine like she always dreamed. Later, she tries to maintain her personal freedom in small ways like eating meat and not keeping the fire lit in her room, but her peers criticize her. In the final scene of the book, Nahri finds both freedom and belonging under unexpected circumstances. Her entire tribe bows to her despite all of her mistakes. This suggests that freedom and belonging may not be mutually exclusive.

Ali endures a similar struggle. From the start, Ali tries to find a balance between his moral and familial duties.